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Friday, July 5, 2013

Natey's B-day

My little baby Nathan (who suddenly seemed huge once we brought Benjamin home) turned two!
He got a little learning center thingie (which our friends who were moving actually gave us and we hid it til his birthday -- when they're 2 you can still take advantage of the fact that pretty much anything is cool and exciting and they don't know or care that it's a hand-me-down, right?).

For his cake he picked out chocolate cupcakes...and wanted to eat them for breakfast. And why not? 



Happy Birthday, my sweet baby Natey!


Wednesday, April 24, 2013

The Birth of Baby Number Three

Yes, it's been 7 weeks, but better late than never right?
Benjamin Daniel Disparte.
The receptionist at his pediatrician's office said, "That's a good strong name."
6 lbs, 10 oz, 19 1/2 inches.
Perfect.
Benjamin's birth was pretty much the birth of my dreams. After having safe, smooth and positive births at a hospital and a birth center inside a hospital (ok, actually in the car and the ER on the second one), I felt good about giving birth at a free-standing Birth Center this time, Best Start Birth Center here in San Diego.
The few things about the first two births that I hoped to have happen differently this time around went perfectly. It was such a peaceful, calm atmosphere to labor and birth in. I LOVED giving birth at a Birth Center.
We went home four hours after he was born and got a great night's sleep with no nurses or doctors coming in and out.
Life with three kids has been, to my overwhelming relief, genuinely happy and pretty smooth! (As a side note, I found that leaving the computer off almost all the time is a major contributing factor to family and home life being smooth and happy; hence the 7-week-late post about Benjamin's arrival.)
Benjamin is a super smiley, happy baby and I am a waaaay more laid-back, calm, and relaxed mom than I was with one and even two, without sacrificing the level of orderliness that I like to have at home.
Caitlyn and Nathan looooooove the baby.
Life is good.
Benjamin, we are so incredibly happy you are here!


Thursday, January 24, 2013

First Haircuts

Before:

 Notice the lovely little rat tail shining in the sun. :)

After:



I had heard so many horror stories about little kid haircuts that I put off cutting his hair for a loooong time. We did several bang trims and I did cut off his little rat tail while he was in the bath one night, but we didn't bust out the clippers until a couple weeks ago.
And guess what! It was a smooth and pleasant experience for all involved! Quinn just took him in the bathroom and said, "Sit down on the bench Natey." He sat down on the bench and held still the whole time while Quinn buzzed his little locks off with the clippers. Nice and easy. Woohoo!

Next up -- Before:

 Oh my!

After:




Funny that Cait's first haircut wasn't until she was three, but she just never had enough hair to cut until then! She had a serious baby mullet, poor thing. I actually cut her hair after giving her a bath on the night that Nathan broken his arm (the first arm). Nathan had finally cried himself to sleep in Quinn's arms and I was so stressed and upset about it that I think I just needed something to occupy myself so I pulled out the scissors and gave Caitlyn a haircut. She's due for another one sometime soon. Me too for that matter....

Tuesday, December 4, 2012

All Better

This is kind of old news now, but I wanted to put these pictures in just so I have them somewhere more permanent than my camera.

The week before Halloween I was standing at the stove cooking dinner when I heard a thud behind me. I turned out to discover that Nathan had climbed up on a step stool and then proceeded to fall off. Apparently he put his hands out to catch himself because he started to scream and hold onto his right wrist, which immediately swelled up and turned red -- clearly not the usual fall-down-and-get-right-back-up-and-go-play. Luckily, a friend in our ward happens to be a physicians assistant at the only hand clinic in the area and he told us to bring Nathan right over and he would have a look. He confirmed that Nathan's wrist was broken and happened to have the materials on hand to make a splint just Nathan's size to stabilize it until we could take him to our doctor the next morning.
The x-rays showed that both bones in his forearm were broken at the wrist -- poor little guy! So Dr. Holmes (Oh, how we love Dr. Holmes!) put a cast on and all was well.
But wait! The store doesn't end there! Almost exactly two weeks later while I was gone getting my hair cut, Quinn was cooking dinner and the kids were sitting on chairs in the dining room watching Doc McStuffins on Quinn's laptop. Quinn looked over just in time to see Nathan stand up on his chair, inexplicably put one leg over the arm, and topple off the side. Again: scream, grab other wrist. This time Quinn went ahead and just took him to urgent care, and sure enough his left wrist was broken and they put it in a splint.
The next morning, back at Dr. Holmes' office as he was putting a cast on Nathan's other arm, he said, "It's a good thing I know and love you guys and I don't have to call CPS. You're probably lucky that the urgent care staff didn't call CPS. I had a patient who was holding her baby and accidentally fell down the stairs with him and broke his femur. When they took him to the ER the Dr. called CPS because he thought she was lying about the fall and that it was really a case of child abuse, so they took the baby away from her and it took her almost a year to get him back." Um....freak me out!!!
So here is Nathan with both his little arms in casts.


Luckily, kids heal super fast and he was able to get both casts off after just a few weeks, which made bath time, meal time, and play time a LOT easier. On the other hand, the second he got those babies off he was looking for new things to climb up on, as you can see from the picture.


So I'm learning -- boys (at least my Nathan) are a little more reckless than girls (at least my Caitlyn, who was always pretty careful even though she loved to play and run and jump and climb as much as the next kid). And now I'm paranoid because I'm so worried that he's going to embark on some new adventure that will result in another broken bone, and this time someone's going to call CPS for sure and he'll be taken away from me for a year!!!

Ah, parenthood.

Tuesday, October 30, 2012

Gentleman Conference

I know this post is super late, but at least I'm getting it in during the same month as General Conference, right? Or, as Caitlyn calls it, "Gentleman Conference." :)
A few weeks before Conference weekend, a sister in our ward gave a talk about preparing for Stake and General Conference and gave some really great, practical tips for making it a special weekend that your whole family looks forward to. I loved her ideas! And Caitlyn is old enough now that I can do fun things that she really enjoys and appreciates. So I got online and found printable coloring pages, crafts, and other ideas for during the sessions. Here are a few pics of some of the things we did:

A "Conference Tree"


Caitlyn LOVED finding the picture of the person speaking and gluing it to the leaf after I had cut the picture out. I used Conference Bingo printouts I found for the little topic squares.


So now every week for Family Home Evening, whoever's turn it is to give the lesson chooses a leaf from the Conference Tree and bases their lesson on that talk. It's so nice to have a built in FHE lesson plan for the next few months!


We also a had hidden "Musical Treat Bag" for Caitlyn and Nathan to run around the house and find during the songs. I did this because I liked the idea of having special treats (fun food makes anything special), but I didn't like the idea of just having a whole table full of food sitting there the whole time during Conference for us all to pig out on and feel stuffed and groggy afterward. So we just did simple little treats, like a lolli pop for each person, or a little snackbag of cheerios and mini-marshmallows. Simple, but the kids thought it was amazing! :)


After the Saturday p.m. session and before Quinn went to the Priesthood session, we had a treasure hunt and the treasure was homemade oreo ice cream shakes. While we ate our shakes we looked at all the leaves we'd made from the day's talks and talked about things that stood out to us. Then we did the same thing over dinner on Sunday evening.

It made for a really successful and meaningful Conference weekend! And for a couple weeks afterward Caitlyn kept asking, "Can we have Gentleman Conference today?" So hopefully we are starting a family tradition of making Conference something our whole family loves and looks forward to.


Tuesday, October 23, 2012

Foreign Policy and the Upcoming Election


Let me start by saying I have never posted anything political on our blog before. But then, I've sort of turned a blind eye to politics in general before this election because I had no hope in American politics, so why follow it or care about it when there's nothing I can do that has any affect on it? It's just frustrating. 
Enter Mitt Romney. I was skeptical at first. But now for the first time in my voting-age life I am excited to vote! Because I've come to feel like there is finally someone to vote for who will lead our nation with integrity and who not only has good intentions but also proven abilities that can lift us out of economic crisis. For me, that's something worth feeling hopeful about.



But the debate last night left me feeling worried. Obama's rhetoric was compelling and persuasive. I've traveled enough internationally to know that much of the world dislikes America at best, wants to destroy us at worst. So doesn't Obama's approach -- apology for instances of bossing other countries around, mutual respect, mutual interest, and a softer, outstretched hand -- seem like the best foreign policy? I kind of thought it did. But the significant other in my life reminded me that those things usually only work if the person/country you're extending them to actually shares mutual interests and goals...you know, like peace, goodwill, etc. If on the other hand the other person/country involved is motivated by greed, hatred, lust for power, etc., your approach isn't likely to bring about the results you intended.

Then today I saw an article from Foreign Policy that confirmed this. And by the way, Kiron Skinner is not some random person. She's a pretty darn educated expert in foreign relations. Have a one-second glance at her bio and you'll see what I mean: http://www.hoover.org/fellows/9774. Really, I'm serious. Just check out her bio really quick. 

So here is her article below. It looks long but it's a quick read. 

I'm sure some of you may disagree with the thoughts I've expressed. Feel free to offer thoughtful, well-reasoned arguments to contradict my sentiments. But I'm hoping no one will feel the need to respond with nasty or sarcastic comments. Thanks!

Foreign Policy
Kiron Skinner
October 22, 2012 @ 4:19 PM   

I am supporting Governor Mitt Romney for president in no small part because of the state of the world and the role of the United States in it. While pundits will spend the next few days slicing and dicing the Romney-Obama foreign policy debate, I would like to turn attention to the wider world of U.S. foreign policy.

Senator Barack Obama assumed the presidency with high hopes about his ability to reshape U.S. foreign policy. Indeed, he campaigned on that pledge. He spoke of a "new beginning" in America's relations with other countries, based upon "mutual interest" and "mutual respect." That declaration was, of course, an implicit rebuke of all his predecessors, who presumably failed to observe such niceties. By loudly professing America's -- and his own personal good will -- President Obama believed he would begin to "eradicate years of mistrust" and move the world in directions favorable to the United States.

But that has not happened. The years which have followed have not been kind to the theory of international relations rooted in naïve idealism. The "outstretched hand" he extended to country after country was met with indifference at best, and abuse at worst. Instead of extending America's influence, our standing and power were diminished around the world.

Look at relations with Russia. The president began this policy by making unilateral concessions to our former Cold War adversary on missile defense, undercutting some of our East European allies -- notably, Poland and the Czech Republic -- along the way. He signed an arms control agreement with Moscow that called for cuts in U.S. strategic forces while leaving Russia with a ceiling for the same weapons above what it possessed at the time. None of these overtures and policies accomplished what President Obama hoped. In return, Russia continued to vote against us on critical resolutions at the United Nations, while hurling contemptuous words in our direction.

And then there is China. President Obama came into office hoping for a significant improvement in relations with Beijing. He sent Secretary of State Hillary Clinton to China, where she helpfully explained to her hosts that henceforth the United States would not permit our differences over human rights to "interfere" with joint efforts to deal with "the global economic crisis, the global climate change crisis and the security crisis." What did this olive branch achieve? Not only has China continued its predatory economic policies involving currency manipulation, the theft of intellectual property, and cyber-piracy, but it has begun to behave far more aggressively in its own neighborhood. The Obama administration was itself forced to recognize that its policy failed when it announced the "pivot" of U.S. forces to Asia. Should the United States pivot to Asia while key parts of the Middle East are up in flames? Furthermore, what signal is being sent to China by the Obama administration's advocacy of radical cuts in defense spending? Relabeling the pivot as the Asia "rebalance" misses the point.

Iran too offers a disturbing lesson. President Obama came into office urging a policy of "engagement" with the ayatollahs. By showing our good faith and readiness to negotiate, he aimed to sway them from their path of acquiring nuclear weapons. It was the hopes he invested in engagement that led him to one of the most shameful recent episodes in U.S. foreign policy. Thus, in 2009, when protesters took to the streets of Iran's cities to demonstrate against their country's stolen election, the administration remained silent. President Obama said he did not want to "meddle." In short order, the Iranian protesters were crushed. By failing to offer moral support to those seeking peaceful change in Iran, America retreated from our own principles. A chance to weaken or dislodge Iran's vicious Islamic dictatorship was lost, perhaps for a generation. Meanwhile, Iran has accelerated its nuclear program. President Obama's policies have failed in their central objective, and the Middle East draws closer to a nuclear capability that will spark a regional arms race, raise the specter of nuclear terrorism, and destabilize the region.

Indeed, if one looks across the map of the broader Middle East, one can see that America's standing in the region has fallen precipitously over the past four years. It is obvious that not all of the setbacks can be laid at the president's doorstep. But the administration has been at the mercy of events, watching from the sidelines as tens of thousands of civilians are dying in Syria even as Iran delivers weapons to its client in Damascus using Iraqi airspace. Relations with Egypt remain fraught with confusion and distrust, and Israel has mounting worries about the future of all of its neighbors, not to mention Iran. This is truly a dangerous time and the Obama administration seems sadly absent from the scene.

The attack against our consulate in Benghazi and the murder of our ambassador to Libya are an especially tragic part of this picture of chaos. The administration has spent weeks now spinning a tangled tale regarding the adequacy of the security measures it had in place and the zigzags of its post-attack response. After weeks of denying that it was a terrorist attack, the Obama administration shifted course and began to acknowledge what was obvious. The disarray here is symptomatic of the deeper ailments afflicting the president's foreign policy.

The past four years have given voters ample time to become acquainted with President Barack Obama's foreign policy vision. And they have given voters a significant foreign policy record to appraise. However one judges the president's performance in the foreign policy debate in Boca Raton, he cannot escape a deeply troubling record in international affairs.

America needs a return to the foreign policy consensus of the mid-twentieth century.. That consensus allowed the country to mobilize its resources and combat the Soviet threat. The United States shaped the future then, and it can do so again. That is what our allies want from us and it is what our adversaries fear. That's the vision of Governor Mitt Romney, which has drawn my support.

Thursday, October 4, 2012

A New Little Guy

Nope, he's not here yet. BUT, we've got a new little guy coming to join our family somewhere around March 3, 2013! I wasn't expecting to find out the gender at my appointment last week, so I made chocolate covered pretzels in the appropriate color to surprise Quinn and the kids with the news!





Nathan looks a little unsure about the whole thing, but I think we're all excited to welcome a new friend. :)